How to help someone with depression

 

01 My feelings are numb

　　I am a severely depressed patient. Many people do not understand, what is the world of depressed people?

severely depressed patient

　　

　　From my personal experience, it means that I am not interested in anything. I am confused every day. I am always thinking about whether I have done something wrong in the face of things. I will be bored with the concern of my family and reluctant to communicate with friends. Some subtle things will die.

　　My feelings are numb, and I even have to scratch my hands with a knife to feel a hint of pleasure .

　　That's right, pleasure. It's the sense of being that I'm still alive, on the boundary of life and death.

　　Only when a sharp knife cuts the flesh and blood on the skin, I feel that I am a person, a living person, and a painful person.

Living with someone with depression can be difficult. Here are some tips on how to help someone with depression who lives with you and take care of yourself at the same time.

You should know

·         Depression is a disease, not a personality weakness.

·         Depression can be treated. The most effective treatment and the duration of depression depend on the severity of the illness.

·         The support of caregivers, friends and family members is conducive to the recovery of depression patients. Recovery takes time, so you must have patience and perseverance.

·         Stress can make depression worse.

You can take the following actions for people with depression:

 

• Make it clear that you want to help, just listen without judgment, and proactively provide support.
• Learn more about depression.
• If possible, encourage patients to seek professional help. Take the initiative to accompany the patient to the appointment.
• If medication is prescribed, help the patient take the medication as prescribed. Be patient, it usually takes a few weeks to get better.
• Help patients perform daily tasks, adopt regular eating and sleeping patterns.
• Encourage patients to exercise regularly and participate in social activities.
• Encourage patients to focus on the positive aspects rather than the negative aspects.
• If the patient has thoughts of self-harm, or has intentionally hurt himself, do not leave them alone. Seek further help from emergency services or health care professionals. At the same time, take away drugs, sharp instruments, guns and other items.
• Take care of yourself too. Try to relax and continue to do what you like.

How to help relatives and friends with depression?

·   Although depression is not a physical disease, it also brings economic burdens . What's more serious is that patients will lose their ability to work or even become unemployed , lose the motivation to live in life, and are more likely to embark on extreme roads.

·     If there are relatives and friends around us who are suffering from depression, do the following to let patients see the "light" in the dark.

How to help your loved ones

　

1. Listen more and talk less, let him relax

        　　Communicating with patients with depression should focus more on listening , allowing patients to confide in their inner depression. During the communication process, you can relax your limbs so that the patient feels comfortable, knowing that you are listening to his anxiety attentively.

   2. Take time to get along

        　　What people with depression need is companionship . Spend some time with each other, and simple conversations will also let them know that you care about them.

   3. Help find relevant information, or take them to see a doctor　　

       　　Go out of the house, ask for help, and accompany the patient to a professional institution for examination. Be careful, don’t propose to see a doctor too early , but first, after you understand the information about depression, let them feel that you are really helping them and caring about them, so that they will no longer avoid their depression and take the initiative to listen. your opinion.

Help find relevant information

  　　

  4. Take care of your emotions

      　　Depressed patients will attack their family members. If they get along for a long time, they may also experience depression, helplessness and despair. Therefore, it is very important to take good care of your emotions, not to be angry or to vent your bad emotions on the patient. Believing that wind and rain will always pass and can save a depressed patient, isn't this also a very fulfilling thing?

     　　Depressed people may not really want to close the "door" of their atrium. They want more than anyone else to understand them, to understand them, and someone to help when struggling in the dark. I hope this article can help more depressed families to get out of the gloom as soon as possible.

　　1. Depression is a "black dog"

　　"The depression in my heart is like a black dog, it bites me at every opportunity."-Churchill

　　"Black dog" is synonymous with depression. In the book "I Have a Black Dog Called "Depression", author Matthew Johnston also uses the "black dog" as a metaphor for depression.

　　Relevant data shows that there are about 400 million people worldwide suffering from depression, but only less than 25% of patients will seek effective treatment , and at least 1 million people commit suicide due to depression every year .

　　

　　As the world’s fourth most common disease, depression has caused hundreds of millions of people around the world to suffer, and this number is still on the rise year by year, and the phenomenon of a younger age of patients has begun to appear.

　　What exactly is depression? In our compulsory textbooks, there is no popular science in this area. In known news cases, people tend to equate depression with depression, insomnia, unwillingness to socialize, thinking too much, and introverted personality.

　　Depression is not a single disease. It is a continuous dynamic process that causes the body to produce a series of depressive symptoms under the interaction between the basis of physiological susceptibility and the acquired environment.

　　Faced with such a large "depressive group", many people have missed the opportunity for early intervention due to lack of understanding of depression. But in fact, depression has more obvious symptoms in the early stage:

　　1. The mood continues to decline . Feeling empty and worthless.

　　2. Lose interest in everything around .

　　3. Surge/loss of appetite and significant changes in weight.

　　4. Sleep problems, insomnia/drowsiness .

　　5. Change in behavior , become irritable, or slow to act.

　　6. Fatigue and lack of energy.

　　7. Low self-evaluation and negative thinking.

　　8. Slow thinking and inability to concentrate.

　　9. Start thinking about death

　　10. The above symptoms last for more than two weeks .

Introverted personality

　　

　　The incidence of depression and related suicide rates remain high, bringing a huge burden to society and patients. Professor Yang Fude from the World Health Organization's Psychological Crisis Research and Training Cooperation Center suggested that if work, study, and life are affected to varying degrees, you should go to the specialist outpatient clinic of a psychiatric hospital or general hospital for formal diagnosis and treatment as soon as possible .

　　2. These people are at higher risk of depression

　　The onset of depression is related to many factors, such as environmental factors, psychological factors, stimulating factors, etc., especially the following factors, which are more likely to cause depression:

　　Introverted personality : Introverts are often not good at expressing , they will accumulate negative emotions and pressure in their hearts, and gradually become withdrawn, sensitive, suspicious, and stubborn . If this continues, they will fall into serious anxiety and despair.

　　Paranoid character : Pursuing perfection is not a bad thing, but too much pursuit of perfection is paranoid. This kind of person, once they can't achieve the feeling they want, they will fall into a strong sense of loss and self-blame , and they like to be horny.

　　

Social factors

　　Childhood trauma : In childhood, they suffered abuse, brutality, and severe psychological trauma. Such people are very prone to depression in adulthood.

　　Social factors : celebrity suicides are a good example. They suffer from various stresses for a long time and lack of rest for a long time . Slowly, they will experience long-term depression and unwillingness to socialize. Sleep is also very bad, which eventually leads to Depressive tendencies, severe patients may commit suicide or self-harm.

There are many reasons, which can be divided into the following factors from the general direction:

　　

1. Life shock (death or illness of relatives, frustration in marriage and love)
2. Excessive pressure (work pressure, life pressure, family pressure, debt, house slavery, unemployment, etc.)
3. The impact of the original family (parents’ marriage) Disharmony, too little care for oneself, single-parent families, parents who often quarrel and fight, etc.)
4. Environmental impact (excluded by colleagues, bosses making things difficult, blind comparisons, unsatisfied vanity)
5. Personality Influence (Personality that pursues perfection and melancholic temperament)
6. Excessive thinking, the brain frequently thinks about future things, most of which are some things that are worrying. Psychology calls it: the black box effect, and likes to think about extreme deterioration in everything. .
7. Physical reasons (suspicion, fear of suffering from incurable diseases, such as cancer, or excessive attention to your health, a little bit of a problem, unlimited magnification, causing yourself to scare yourself, often go to the hospital for check-ups, repeated checks, often online search The data has caused one's extreme fear and fear. Actually, it's totally unnecessary. Who doesn't have any sub-health? Are you unclear and can't get along with yourself? It is recommended to have a full body check once a year.)

　　The above reasons are some of the triggers that cause depression, of course, not all of them, but almost all people suffering from depression can face the corresponding triggers of their own depression. In other words: The reason why you are suffering from depression must match any point above.